Tuesday, August 10th, 2010
By: Brandon Bailor
Sometimes I wonder if there is such a thing as “too nice”. I mean, I always try to live my life with others considerations in mind … well not only in mind, but ahead of my own. Is that so bad? In theory, it seems like the right thing to do, the right way to live. But in reality, it can tend to turn you into a floor mat.
You see I have very little self esteem … a very low self image. I am just a guy … a nobody if you will. Just a face in the crowd. There is nothing special or unique about me. I do not draw attention when I am out. I am not the life of the party. People don’t look up to me. I am just Joe Average. What I do have however is a very large capacity for generosity. I tend to just give and give without ever asking anything in return, and if ever presented with something in return, I normally turn it down. I think the word is spreading. I think people are starting to realize this. I think some people are starting to count on that, and it is starting to hurt. Having my generosity taken for granted is painful.
Along the lines of “too nice” is my passivity. I never expect anything, it’s my self esteem. I never feel I deserve anything (except for maybe a little respect). And because I never feel I deserve anything, I never “go for it”. I never reach, I never take chances. I will never get it anyway … right? In this way, I become the “nice” guy … the giving one … the safe one. The one not to worry about … i.e. … the one who finishes last.
Sometimes I wish I could be the asshole, the boastful one, the arrogant one, the one who gets what he wants. Then I realize that this guy rarely gets to keep anything … he quickly gains enemies, and loses friends. However, this guy doesn’t care about that. He is too proud. He moves on, and continues taking. Ah what a life! To truly believe that you really are “The Man” … must be nice. Sure there are others that would completely disagree with him, but they don’t matter to him. He passes them off as jerks … the “know nothings”, and revels in the glory of himself. No … I don’t want to be him. That seems too shallow and empty.
I would rather stay who I am. I will continue to be the nice guy … too nice … expect nothing, and probably get it. I am too good at swallowing the pain of being walked on, and being taken advantage of. Since I expect nothing, it makes sense to be treated like that. I am nothing. So I will just take it, send the pain below, and continue on my path.
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